1. Adulting is tough, and rewarding too.
I turned twenty-one this year and I flew to Dubai January 2017. A lot of people were asking me why I decided to work abroad at such a very young age. It was because I knew that if I stayed that long with my parents I would be dependent. Yes, adulting is hard. You pay your own bills, you help at home (financially), sometimes work would require you to go home late, and if you’re like me whose without a mom in a house, girl we need to prepare our food no matter how tired we are. You’ll spend your off doing household chores, from doing the groceries to laundry and changing your bed sheet. You’ll be weighing things before you buy because you know your money is hard earned now. But the more frequent you’re doing these things the more you will know how to be efficient with your time and money. At the end of the day, you made it all by yourself and you never stop learning new things which make adulting rewarding.
2. The world is bigger than you think. Try to explore it more.
There will always be a thrill of knowing what is on the other side, of what we see if we go beyond the ordinary. Knowing your comfort zone is the first thing to do. Second is to get out of it because for me I wouldn’t really know my capabilities if I keep on staying on the safe side. It was a surprise that what I’ve discovered on the other side was exhilarating and it makes me want to go farther. You would meet different people of different personality, nationality, and it made me realize that the human race was perfectly made. Our culture and upbringing were different and these things made us unique. A city where no one knows me and where I get lost is worth the adrenaline rush.
3. You’ll make it.
Of course, there were problems I’ve encountered before I got to the place where I am right now but the bigger picture is, I am where I wanted to be (for now). Can you believe that the job I am now is my third in just a span of 11 months? My passport went through a lot of stamping and cancellation of visa and I paid amounts (penalty and fees) worth shopping for a month. I almost flew back home. But here I am, finally, in a place I know I would be happy with the company, colleagues, job responsibilities, and a happy paycheck. Little by little I’m checking my small accomplishments out of my list. Sometimes negative things are just in our heads made to distract us and if you learn how to dismiss these thoughts, you will thank yourself later.
4. You are responsible for your own self.
Self-care is as important as healthcare. Please let us all take care of ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually. While your body is doing everything for you to live every day, eating healthy and doing some simple exercise would be a small thank you. If we can have cheat days, we can also give a day break for everything bad for our health. Eat a balanced diet, cut out your sugar intake, forget about the chips, jog or walk or dance, let that sweat out, have a good 8 hours of sleep, and put that phone down. Read a book, attend a worship, go to church, and pray before you sleep. These things are pretty simple but why do we always skip it?
5. Stop looking if the grass is greener on the other side.
How easy would it be to compare yourself to someone you think is better than you? So easy. In an instant, actually. I don’t know why we (I’m guilty) love looking through other’s life instead of improving our own. We think of all the possible things we have in common and evaluate why theirs are better than ours. Instead of asking why, divert it to why not. Why don’t you stop looking around and focus on yourself? Why not make her an inspiration instead of competition? Life is not a race nor it is a contest to whoever is the best. When you stop looking if the grass is greener on the other side you’ll then realize that the grass is greener where you water it.
I’m all wishing you and your family a Happy New Year! May you always find happiness wherever you go. Let us not regret those things that have happened in 2017, rather let us all learn from them.
Love & Light,